We are social animals. Period. One of the most important things, which we
can do, to help our children develop better, is instill in them good social
skills. It will help them become better individuals. Children are like lumps
of clay and we, being the sculptor, can mold or fashion them into any shape
we want. This is how the great responsibility of social development of a
child falls on your head. Read on to know how to teach social skill to
children and help them grow into responsible adults.
Teaching Your Children Social Skills
The most important skill that your child needs to acquire is to recognize
rules. You need to teach your children the rules for proper behavior. For
example, if you are in a queue and your child wants to break it, advise
him/her against it, emphasizing the importance of queues. Teach your
children all the general manners, like asking permission before taking
someone else’s things, speaking only after the other person has finished,
etc. Teach these social skills from the very beginning, by following them
Practice The 4 P’s
The four P’s applies to practice, praise, point out and prompt. If you want
to teach proper social skills to your children, you need to practice these
four points. Make them understand the virtue of patience. Let them wait for
talking to you, if you are busy with somebody else. You need to give
constant encouragement to your kids and praise them when they exhibit good
social behavior. Your constant encouragement will help them get over the
starting glitch. The other P i.e. 'point out' means that you need to point
out the good behavior in yourself as well others. Finally, prompt your child
for using appropriate behavior whenever suitable situations come up.
Teach your child the power of sharing. It may not come automatically, but
they need to develop this skill if they want to grow into sociable adults.
When your child refuses to share his/her toys or sweets with the other kids,
don't shout at him/her or forcing him/her to share, Rather, make him/her
realize how he/she would feel if you or your spouse don’t share anything
with him/her. Teach your children that in order to make friends and have
good relationship, they need to dispose of their selfishness. Make them
understand that the more they share, the more satisfaction they will get.
Working With Others
Make your children work with others, as it will help them develop team
spirit and make them bond with their friends in a better way. It will also
serve as a way to enhance the skill of sharing. Let them help their friends
in homework or any common project. Let them share the household chores with
you. Making some creative craft together with your kids will also help
enhance this skill.
Inculcate the skill of listening in your child, not just talking. It will go
a long way in instilling in them the skill of patience and make them a
better person in general. You can use various activities for instilling this
virtue, such as indulging in frequent discussions with your child, in which
first you speak and only when you are finished, is he/she allowed to speak.
Unless your child is polite, no other skill will prove helpful to him/her.
Teach your children how to respect others. You need to coach them on the
very basis of politeness, like using the word, please, thank you, sir, madam
etc. They need to learn to respect other people and their properties. They
should also be taught the suitable way of making request for anything.